Gaining Back Your Sex Life

If you’re like many people who have been suffering from ED for quite some time, you’re sex life is what has gravely deteriorated. The good news is, once you’ve got your problem figured out and you begin to treat your ED, you can get back into the habit of a healthy sex life again. This may seem difficult after so long but with a few tips, you’ll be well on your way to regaining your sex life. In the beginning you might have to take it slow but know that with a little patience and perseverance, you can and will enjoy sex again! Whatever you do, don’t give up!

Tips on Spicing Things Up Again

The biggest problem between couples dealing with ED problems is the loss of physical affection in the relationship. Many couples say that they stopped touching each other out of fear that they might start something that couldn’t be finished. This lack of affection can be very frustrating and very detrimental to a relationship as well. When physical affection has been lost, your partner stops feeling that sensual part of the relationship. Things become almost robotic and there’s no feeling anymore.

Think of your sex life like an old engine that has been out of use for a long time. Once you fix it, you can’t pretend to take it on a trip right away. You need to warm it up, right? Take it for a couple quick spins before going all out. Well, your partner is the same way. If you haven’t been active for a while you need to spice things up again in order to regain that ease and comfort you once had and enjoyed.

Here are a few things you can do to warm up the engine again and kick it up a notch (Remember: these tips go both ways):

• Touch each other throughout the day (Hold hands, caress your partners cheek, give a hug, touch the leg, touch the lower back, etc. : Do these things not expecting something, just do it to get back into the habit of touching each other)
• Sit close to each other while watching TV (doesn’t matter what you’re watching, try to be close)
• Hug each other and kiss every time you see each other (Hold each other for a few seconds in the hug, you’ll see how this alone is great therapy!)
• Give each other a long kiss goodnight (this can help set signals off in the brain that things are starting to get back on track)

Once you start to feel more comfortable with touching again, try sensual touching through things like:

• Bathing each other
• Massaging each other
• Fondling

What to Expect Once You’re Ready to Go

Once you’ve gotten the engine running again and have warmed it up and worked it, you’re ready to take it out for a spin. If this is the first time you’ve felt a firm erection in a long time, this first experience can be a little strange at first. If you’re partner is over the age of menopause, you might want to make sure you use a lubricant as to avoid discomfort. Don’t be discouraged if you can’t have completely fulfilling sex the first time around. Remember, you may be out of practice but you certainly haven’t forgotten. Practice makes perfect, so start practicing!

If after all of this, things aren’t improving or you can’t have sex at all, you might want to talk to your doctor to see if other alternatives such as sex therapy might be needed to help with the relationship.

Now even when you do regain the sensuality back, you still don’t have the spontaneity you once had. This is the worst problem of ED even when treatment is already being sought out. However, if planning ahead of time is putting a damper on your sex life, speak to your doctor about possible alternatives or any new advancement in the treatment of ED that can help speed up the erection process. In the mean time, take advantage of the prepping time you need to get it up to help your partner warm up. This is a perfect time for foreplay and sensual activity. A nice erotic message can help keep your partner entertained until the time comes for you to perform at your best. All in all, don’t lose faith in your sex life. You can learn to enjoy sex again and have a wonderful and fulfilling sex life with time.