E.D. From the Partner's Perspective

What can I do If I believe my partner is suffering from erectile dysfunction?

E.D. is not just a man’s problem. Erectile dysfunction (more commonly known as E.D.) affects everyone in the relationship. The problem is that most men feel intimidated when they try to talk about their lack of sexual performance. Many times they just end up avoiding sex by constantly coming up with excuses as to why they just don’t feel right at the moment. A lot of women misinterpret their partner’s unwillingness to have sex and believe that their husband or partner is having an affair or that they no longer feel attracted to them, etc., when the truth is that they are simply suffering from a curable condition called E.D.

So what do you do if you believe your partner has E.D? How do you approach him without hurting his feelings or without stomping on his ego? The following tips and conversation starters may help:

The Message you want to get across:

You need to make your partner feel that E.D. is not the end of the world and that it can be treated; that you love him and don’t blame him for his current inability to perform in bed and that you are going to help him regain both of your sex lives.

Make your partner understand that sex has always been a great and important part of your relationship and that he will have your full support when seeking out treatments for this very curable condition.

Make him understand that E.D. is something that should be treated now because if you wait too long it can tarnish the beautiful relationship you’ve both cultivated for so long.

So how do you approach your partner about E.D.?

The initial conversation may be difficult to start but if you plan ahead and do it with love you will have greater success. The following phrases can help you get your conversation started. After you begin talking, be sure to cover all your grounds.

Conversation Starters:

"I feel we’ve been distancing ourselves from each other recently. We aren’t very intimate lately. Let’s try to discuss why this is happening.”

“I know that there is a lot on your mind and that work and other factors are putting high amounts of stress on both of us. Is it possible that this may be affecting our sex life?”

Hopefully, these few phrases can help you get an idea of how to talk with your partner. Just remember, don’t ever make him feel like he’s the problem and if all goes well, you’ll be on your way to the first step of regaining your sex life.